I believe she is brainwashed by her boyfriend. About 3 years ago she moved out of our house at her boyfriend's insistence (from HI to CA) As a result of this she has: lost weight while he has gained. (she may weigh about 100 lbs and is 5'8"), she only wears black, she dyed her red hair black (she confided in me that it hurt her feelings when he asked her to do this but then she "realized that [she] was being immature") She stopped seeing all her friends and stopped talking to her family, and she believes that her close friends have said mean things about her -- which is not true. When I told them this, they were sincerely shocked and hurt for her.

Previous to this she was in dance and drama ministry and very involved in youth group activities and personal Bible study. She also had graduated and went to college all on her own with no help from us and had concrete plans for her future. She was fun loving and compassionate and very creative etc. (her boyfriend constantly criticized her every time she opened her mouth) Now she only communicate with us a few sentences in an email a couple of times a year.

My prayers lately have been that God would rescue her from the situation she is in and restore her to a right relationship with Him and with her family and surround her with people who truly love Him. (as it was before she was with her boyfriend),
Our hearts ache daily for her. Her older sister used to cry for her nearly every day for a year and when I relayed this to Anna, she did not believe me, which is out of character for her.
Anna will be 23 this year.
Thank you
Kathy

Kathy, I will definitely be praying for your daughter! Would you feel comfortable emailing me her email address or even her snail mail for that matter. I work with women in domestic violence situations every month and have just completed a training this past week regarding this. While your daughter's boyfriend may not be abusing her physically, it is clear that he is doing so mentally from what you shared. With these type of men it's all about the power and control they can have over others. Some don't realize what they are doing but some are VERY much aware of what they are doing. I have some information I could get to your daughter that might help. If you want me to send it to you instead of her, I will. Sometimes though, it helps having it come from someone else other than a parent. I also teach about healthy relationships and what that looks like. Please contact me about this. I have some of the info at my office so I won't be able to get it to you until Monday, but I feel strongly that she needs this information.

You will be in my prayers as well, Kathy. I know all too well how much it hurts to see your child go through something like this. One thing that always brings me comfort when I see my son going down a difficult path is that the Word of God tells us to train up a child in the way they should go, and when they are OLD they shall not depart from it. I know that my Father is holding my son, and I also know that He is also holding your daughter. God bless you and take comfort in knowing that others are standing with you in prayer.

I understand some of what you might be going through. My son has brought me almost unbearable grief and anxiety. As mothers, we also tend to suffer lots of guilt.

My prayers go out for the health and safety of your daughter. I pray that she will emerge from this is phase gaining wisdom. And Kathy, I pray that our Lord will continue to hold you in His peace and strength.

Christy

My first question to Kathy is this:

Has your daughter Anna believed? Has she believed in the Gospel of Grace as presented by the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 15:3-4?

If the answer to that question is yes...THEN more than likely, the boyfriend is demonically possessed and controlled. Satan's orders to the demonic realm is to get the active Child of God "shelved"!

Now, VERY FEW Christians are keen on this device. And even FEWER understand demonic possession. It's not always "The Exorcist"!

A Child of God CANNOT be demonically possessed. The Holy Spirit shares His domain with NO ONE! However, it IS possible and as well very likely for the Child of God to be demonically INFLUENCED and through that influence...CONTROLLED. The demons will use the usual tactics...drug use, alcohol, etc,. to WEAKEN and suppress the Child of God's will, thereby allowing the satanic leaning "flesh" to take over.

The solution is the prayers of True Christians...as well as your, (Kathy), encouragement in the things of the LORD. Such as Bible reading and study along with praying WITH her over the phone. The prayers will tear down the stronghold, while the bible study and encouragement will bring her out of the situation.

So, pray SPECIFICALLY, that the stronghold that has entrapped your daughter will be torn down, and that the LORD will rescue her from the demonic influence that she has fallen victim to.

Get this wording right and then submit this issue to the Prayer Center as a Prayer Request, so that all of the prayer warriors here at LLM can get involved with this in prayer. Don't be SLACK in getting this done.

Sister Terri, if you could work with our Sister Kathy, in getting this done that would be great...

ok...keep me posted 8-)

Terri
I sent you an email.
Christy, thank you for your love and prayers.
David, yes, I believe she is saved. Him I do not know about. A close friend of his had a falling out with him and then warned Anna to stay away from him for specific reasons. Those exact reasons came out as 'words of knowledge' by missionaries we ran into one day who do deliverance ministry and prayed with us for her. (ie, that he is a manipulator and a controller). They also said that she invited darkness into her life and that they saw a "back pack" on her back (representing this darkness).
Her boyfriend is hard to understand.
He hates to be around people, wants it quiet all the time, but at one time I was told he was in a worship band. ( in high school - they met at Christian school)
He has always been legalistic and has never drank, smoked or done drugs that I know of. Once her older sister ( who sadly is a very carnal believer) got Anna to take a sip of beer and Anna became so upset at what she had done that it took her and a friend a long time to calm Anna down from the intense guilt she felt. (because she tells him everything) That was one of the things that got her to begin never wanting to see her older sister again. She has since become more amicable towards her and welcomed news about her in one of our last emails.
Anna has not allowed us to speak with her on the phone for a couple of years - only email. And she only checks it a few times a year it seems.
I do appreciate any help in formulating the correct prayer request and a pointing to the forum where I may submit it. I am brand new to this site and still finding my way around.
Thank you all
Love,
Kathy

By the way, I am open to all you said David.
Our family has experienced intense spiritual warfare, but Anna has never talked about experiencing it herself, so I don;t know if she has.
But her 2 sisters and I (and my husband at one time) have heard and seen things (demons). Her 2 sisters have from a young age.
I figured this was the norm for all Christians, but some that I talk to have never had such experiences.
Personally, I find that they make God and His realm, all the more real and only serve to strengthen my faith.

Dear Sister Kathy, I am praying on how to proceed and will email you tomorrow after I have finished praying and going back to study on Spiritual warfare. In the meantime please read the following articles by Pastor David. I believe that they will help you out very much!

The Ambassador for Christ's Guide to Satanic Combat, part 1


http://lionandlambministry.com/index.php/home/288-spiritual-warfare-part-1-you-are-not-a-god

The Ambassador for Christ's Guide to Satanic Combat, part 2


http://lionandlambministry.com/index.php/home/316-the-ambassador-for-christs-guide-to-satanic-combat


“THE COMBAT IN THE SPIRIT IS MANIFESTED IN THE FLESH”, THE AMBASSADOR FOR CHRIST'S GUIDE TO SATANIC COMBAT, PART 3

http://lionandlambministry.com/index.php/home/318-the-combat-in-the-spirit-is-manifested-in-the-flesh-the-ambassador-for-christs-guide-to-satanic-combat-part-3-

I'll leave you with this from the Word of God for now:

For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled. 2 Corinthians 10:3-6

Praying for you and Anna. God bless you, Sis!